Been quite some time I've blogged. can remember any happy blogs here. I'm just not the type of person who records down happy things. don't know why, but it's always when I'm feeling down that I will want to write out my thoughts. Over the years, ever since secondary school, had the habit of writing down stuff, especially when I don't feel happy, and prefer not to tell it to people...

People have a habit of not facing up to confrontations... I don't deny that I have that inclination too... but somehow, i realise from observation that not all who keep quiet about things have a healthy outlet to deal with that. Chinese or rather asians have a way of not speaking up when they disagree, but keeping it hidden makes them unable to forget. Eventually, the straw turns up to break the camel's back... friendships are ruined, people are hurt.

years go by, I came to accept that people change... 2 who share a wonderful friendship are like two people walking down the same path... essentially stil 2 individuals, making separate choices at every juncture, along the same path. at some junctions, they decide to turn in the same direction; at other times, they don't... their paths cause them to drift further and further apart... but sometimes turns bring them back together...

never believed in relationships that last forever, because people change... long-lasting friendships are of course nice to have- making new friends can sometimes be a chore. trying to understand new people, can be quite a task for lazy people like me... but trying to understand people who have changed is equally tiring... i stil see people who feel sad about friends lost, changed, hurt... I on the other hand prefer to treasure memories... holding on to faded relationships are both emotionally torturing and have a high opportunity cost... would rather spend the time and emotion on something else....

it all sounds easy, but then being in a relationship... is not that easy... being together, coming from different backgrounds, different ideas and values... conflicts are inevitable... and it's either u adjust and adapt or u don't... a lot of times i think... it is so much easier being alone (or is it?) O well.. it's the "grass-is-greener-on-the-other-side" syndrome i guess... so i've somehow come to the conclusion that: for a relationship to withstand the test of time, trials and temptations... we really need supernatural intervention from God to keep it together, or we will receive supernatural attention from the "other" side, to tear it apart... *yawn*...

"Meaningless! Meaningless! Utterly meaningless! Everything is meaningless!" - Ecc 1:2